Tolerating the grey

We feel a false sense of security in certainty. The illusion that things are black or white is alluring. The problem with certainty is that is truly rare. Tolerating the ambiguity that things are not, all or nothing, is difficult. Tolerating that people are not all good or all bad is difficult. Making a decision that something is a certain way gives one a new task. They then need to defend their position and work incredibly hard and making sure that thing stays the way they have decided it to be.

 True mental health is, tolerating the ambiguity that our human experience is complex. Life is complex. People are complex. In tolerating the grey, we open ourselves to a full human experience. This opening allows for life to take place. Full of things that just “are.” There is peace in this way of being. You don’t have to work so hard trying to make things the way you think they should. They aren’t going to work out that way anyway. Just enjoy the complexities and the sweet strange surprises.